I think people worry too much. And before you start getting all snotty at me, by “people”, I mean I worry to much. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately and decided to re-read a post I wrote about 3 months ago. Seriously, am I stressed out or what? Putting things into drawers? Planning? Refocussing? Sorry about this but it’s all a load of crap.
Naturally, things have happened that have made me think differently. In three months – just three months – I’ve experienced some of the most inspiring moments in my life. I’ve also had some of the saddest news ever. And yeah, not to go all emo on you but, it’s the sad news that really gets you thinking. And you realise that life is short, oftentimes shorter than it should be, and if you are lucky enough to have those inspiring moments you should go ahead and make things happen. I think that’s the real reason why I moved to Berlin in the first place. I hit jackpot at the age of 20 when I found – cheesiness alert! – the man I want to be with for the rest of my life. To be quite honest, in what will sound like a rather anti-feminist observation (but is not), that’s basically all I need. At the end of the day, for me, that’s what counts. Knowing that I’m on a journey with someone who want to jump off at the same stops: happy as a duck in water.
The rest of it is somewhere in between survival and success. Before moving to Berlin, I hadn’t found a right balance to it. At the moment, I’m actually aiming at survival, which gives me way more options. Granted, from a professional perspective, I’ve been dipping my feet in many a pond to check how warm the water is. Never stayed enough to start feeling cold. I see it as a good thing, some people are so determined to climb up the corporate ladder that they really don’t. I have learnt lots and am still open to learning. I’m not naive and know most people will try to take advantage of this situation. That’s why there are so many over qualified people slaving at internship after internship after internship. And this is a real problem, that sooner or later will burst on everyone’s faces. Can you imagine, if all the “interns” in the world stopped working for 1 week? Now that would put things in perspective.
But this is also what’s boosting my generation to create. To create art. Companies. Apps. Ideas. Whatever. I see more and more people quitting their day jobs and risking insane failure by following their dreams. Those are the moments we pause our worry tape and breathe. Listen.
We worry too much. I worry too much. Sometimes you just have to follow your gut, and when you do have the time to worry, maybe you should worry about real issues like the environment. War. Poverty. Rights. Cancer. It’s all around us and we rarely see it (I rarely see it) because we’re thinking about nail polish or shoes or cars. We all do it. Next time I think of nail polish, I’ll remember the chemicals that are polluting our water. Shoes will remind me of little children who work harder than I ever will and have yet to know what formal education is. And cars, don’t even get me started. The point is, it’s important to put things in perspective. I’m giving it a try. And believe me, when you’re risking it and going against what’s expected of you, it may get a little fuzzy at times.
I think Berlin, as crazy as it may be, helps me to keep sane. To stay creative, to make, to learn, to try, to stop and breathe. Oh, and there’s the other thing, I hit jackpot 7 years ago so the rest doesn’t really matter.






12 comments
Adam says:
Oct 12, 2011
Wow. This post couldn’t be any more timely for me! First of all, “so many over qualified people slaving at internship after internship after internship” – I’m sitting at a computer at my “internship” right now while reading this and I can’t help but agree. In the past few weeks I’ve been seriously tempted to just take the plunge into doing what *I* want to do–”to create” as you so aptly put it.
I’ve been seriously thinking about my increasingly strong desire to “make something happen” and I think I’m finally about to do something about it. Nice to see other people thinking of the same things and struggling with the same ideas!
James says:
Oct 12, 2011
Great post! I was nodding in agreement to so much of it that now my neck hurts.
To us, the move to Berlin also feels like the first step – the means to an end, rather than the end itself. We want to create SOMETHING… but what? At least we have the luxuries of time and cheap roofs over our heads while we work that out, but I’m itching to put all the inspiration and connections the city has given us into ACTION!
In the meantime, we should work on that Global Intern Strike. Internships do some good things (allow the inexperienced to gain experience; to gauge people’s commitment), but are also biased towards the rich and unserious. Something’s got to give.
Raquel says:
Oct 12, 2011
I’m happy this makes sense to other people too. I do hope you find the path to whatever it is you want to do. No judgement whatsoever. Might even be another internship, if it offers an experience you think is valuable. Might be something else, something new. Whatever it is, good luck!
Raquel says:
Oct 12, 2011
That was for Adam, btw. And thanks for sharing your views!
@James: glad you agree too. Sometimes when I write these things I’m not sure I’m making sense to people other from myself so it really means a lot to get positive feedback. And yes: Berlin does offer “cheap luxuries” that few other cities do. That makes the choice of moving here that much easier. I’m totally happy to help with any ideas you have, starting to figure out a few of my own too
As for the Global Intern Strike: you have no idea how many times I’ve thought about that. I actually think it would be very very viral. You think the world can handle it? Unfortunately, the internships that “do good things” are running out quickly.
nora says:
Oct 12, 2011
I am thinking.. how many jackpots were in italy seven years ago?
Raquel says:
Oct 12, 2011
That I know of, at least 3 hun
Anthony Barba says:
Oct 14, 2011
In life you have only two important questions to answer. A great life if you answer both questions correct, a good life if you correctly answer one and a miserable life if you get both wrong. Question 1) who do I marry? Question 2) Where do I work?
Clairikine says:
Oct 18, 2011
I highly agree with your last paragraph: I think Berlin keeps me sane as well, on multiple levels, not just through the creative vibe (although that’s a big part). And sanity in young adulthood is a very important to have.
Raquel says:
Oct 18, 2011
@Anthony: thanks, working on it
@Clairikine: I’m glad this rings true to you too. Berlin also helps me to stay sane on multiple levels, it gives me oxygen! Thanks for introducing me to your blog and your art.
ana says:
Oct 26, 2011
it’s so true – i’m trying it all as well, dipping the feet in all the ponds, learning all the crafts and languages and cultures. and going with my gut. i guess we risk quite a bit, but hey! i’m in good company as well, and so far, so good
Suzy says:
Nov 20, 2011
I liked this post. Yes we worry too much and it seems to me, the things I worried about the decade before (having been around for 30 decades now) seem totally inconsequential now – so it’s annoying to think of time wasted worrying. But at the same time, it’s hard not to do.
Raquel says:
Nov 21, 2011
Thanks Suzy
I agree with you, and maybe it’s all the changes that moving to a new country imply but sometimes I even think that stuff I worried about a year ago seems pointless now. A decade ago seems almost another life! I guess that means we’re learning, growing and living new experiences, so, all in all, it’s a great sign! Can’t believe I missed you yesterday…got there a bit late, but still had some of your cake: marvelous!